After just one week in my first Mastermind group, one of the participants revealed he had both contracted to sell, and sold the house…in one day!
He said it so casually, as if it were no big deal. But this was exactly what he’d expressed he’d been wanting, and experiencing some difficulty achieving, just one week before.
What made the difference? What helped clear the way for ease and effortlessness?
Well I’d like to think that the support structure he’d built for himself by attending my Mastermind 4 Maximum Momentum had done the trick. And you can create this for yourself. It’s easy if you know the essential component that makes the magic work.
The Magic is Engaged When Someone Listens,
The mere act of being listened to by someone who totally believes what you want can happen for you, opens all sorts of channels and pathways for your good to start zooming towards you.
That supporter, offers no resistance to your desire, no speed bumps, detours or hazards, so your reality can suddenly deliver what you want toot-sweet.
One friend, one person who is truly understanding, who takes the trouble to listen to us as we consider a problem, can change our whole outlook on the world.”
Dr. E. H. Mayo
The important detail here is to choose only those people to listen and support you who are capable of hearing, seeing and knowing what you want as possible. This rules out most of our current friends and family, as they have been seeing, hearing and knowing us as a certain person for some time. Seeing us with fresh eyes might threaten their own status quo.
Look Outside Your Current Circle
So look outside your current, obvious circle. Choose to gather for support with people who have a skill set for genuine listening and the capability to be confident for you.
Being a Support to Others Attracts Supporters to You
If you haven’t yet found the people you’d like to support you on a regular basis, you can get into the attraction of support by allowing support to flow through you to others.
Practice active listening, listen without judgement or opinion. Listen to hear the strength, capability and vision for another. Not only will it be an enormous gift to them, but it will keep you in the energy of support and your own support will be magnetically drawn to you.
Want the Goodies the Fast Way?
Want to try a Directed Mastermind? I’m creating small groups of 5-6 who meet on a teleconference bridge line or face to face through the miracle of teleconferencing, if you prefer; once a week, for one hour each meeting. I direct the meetings to keep the energy moving and the creative ideas flowing.
Contact me, Deborah@AnsweringTheSacred.com for more information or call 541-488-1678.
This year my daughter sat me down to have a very pointed “heart-to-heart” regarding the holidays. Quite sincerely she shared a loneliness and sadness she was feeling about this supposed-to-be-oh-so-joyful-time-of-year. She had been feeling she was the only one looking forward to, and participating in, the festivities for the holidays.
She was hesitant to say anything; she knows I’m juggling the roles of mother, father, teacher, housekeeper and zookeeper. The holidays add another component on top of a full plate, and the voice of Ebenezer Scrooge becomes my holiday companion; work, work, work.
But her courage to be open and share what she was experiencing was the best gift I’ve received this season, because it woke me up.
During some quiet time this last weekend, I bravely settled in for some introspection. What surfaced was painful, memories from my own holidays. Something flipped for me when I turned 13, my mother was diagnosed with Cancer and our family holidays became about proving things were OK and that we were happy, as opposed to actually feeling that emotion.
My children are at that age now, where they are no longer dazzled by the motions; pretty wrapping and lights. They want the real deal, the feeling and connections beneath the trappings.
My pain, year after year, has been there beneath the heavy blanket of my resistance to fully engage with this time of year. My own self coaching has taught me that transformation happens more easily for me if I engage with others, make it into a project I can work on with someone else.
So I went back to my son and daughter, explained briefly what I had discovered and asked them if they would be willing to support me in experimenting with engaging more experimentally, relearning my way around the holidays.
On the outside, it doesn’t look that much different. We still put up lights, we’ve made cookies. But the experience is different, have no doubt. I can feel the hesitation, the temptation to pull back and dull the activities of the season out of habit. And I can feel the desire and the commitment to learn how to be truly present and within the actual moments of this time of year. Front and center!
P.S. Everything I’m learning for myself, is simply challenging me to further hone my upcoming Getting To YES, Now! course. Early bird ends January 2, 2011.