Stop, Go, Stop, Go, Stop…Revealing the Secrets of Resistance
Two weeks ago Mark presented some ideas about how to tame the e-mail inbox situation and I felt some real resistance to his suggestions rise “I’ve been doing e-mail the same old way, changing will take time”…yada yada yada).
But I’ve learned a thing or two about myself (just enough to know there’s plenty more to explore) and the bonafide opportunity presented when resistance, that argumentative, reluctant, critical-mind feeling, shows itself.
So, eyes open and awake, I practiced Mark’s suggestions as diligently as I could for two weeks and guess what? I really liked the results! I’ve even adopted his suggestions as my current strategy.
And there’s the gift in the feeling of resistance. For me, it was a signpost that this might be a place to take a scenic detour, that I might like what I would find, even though the mind game was “don’t change a thing”. And look, I did like it! What an opportunity.
See, I think Resistance gets a bad rap. I’ve found if I use that reluctant, “fold-my=arms” “I-don’t-wanna” thing as guidance, rather than impediment, I get all kinds of goodies; from an opportunity to try something new that might prove “better”, to a chance to forgive or heal something from my past, to clarity about what I really do want.
I’m feeling inspired to name Resistance as a new “best friend”, one who waves a big flag whenever the opportunity to change arises. There may be times I choose “no” but there may be many changes that lead me closer and closer to what I’m really wanting my life to be all about.
So stop, go, stop…go, go, go!
P.S. I have a class beginning in January 2011 to explore the reluctance to make cold calls and appointments. Want to know more? I’ll be announcing the class in one week.