Shake It Up Baby, Twist and Shout!

Last month I talked about River Rafting and what it has to teach us about moving faster than the stream to navigate the water, and that the way to get moving faster is with support.

This month I want to talk about how to change patterns and to get us started I’m going to share a rather startling experience I had this last weekend.

Shake It Up Baby!

Patterns are what control most of actions. We’re fairly well conditioned by age 11 and for most of us, we aren’t acting out of choice, but out of habit, patterns or conditioning.

Ever have that feeling you’re headed for a fall or crash but can’t seem to avoid it? That’s the work of patterning.

So how do you get out of patterning? Well you have to shake things up a bit. You have to give that conditioning some new options. And I’m going to talk about that some more later this week.

A Shake Up is what happened to me this last weekend as I was executing a simple Fall task, placing leaf netting beneath my Japanese Maple, atop my pond. But fortunately for me, despite the shake up, some patterning that I had intentionally put in place, came in handy.

Twist…

On moment I was bending down to straighten the net over the dark water and the next I was falling, face first towards the surface of the pond.

Time slowed as I felt my hand hit and dunk beneath the top of the dark water, as if I expected it to brace my fall.

Then muscle memory kicked in. I’ve practiced falling into moving water, river rafting so that I would flip and ride the rapids down on my back. All it took was for my hand to hit the cold, wet of the pond and I began to twist so when I came to rest, it was my tail end that was on the bottom of the pond and my face was above the surface.

…and Shout!

And good thing too. Because I was so surprised, I had begun to shout out and if my body hadn’t reacted, I would have been swallowing a big mouthful of dark green water!

For several moments I just sat and floated in the pond. My son kept asking me, “are you OK”, “are you OK”? and finally I burst out laughing; the whole thing was just so silly.

Isaac gave me a hand out across the slippery rocks at the pond’s edge.

As I stood dripping: cold, wet and laughing I was so thankful for my body’s patterned response. After a hot shower, I began to think about something a client said to me recently. He had called me for some couple’s coaching after a particularly nice date with his wife.

He said that both he and his wife wanted to work on skills, just as I had with my river rafting, so those skills were patterned into place if they came upon a more stressful time.

When I find myself experiencing something I don’t like, I try to remember that this is the perfect time to become aware, make a new choice or intention, and experiment with new actions: shake it up a bit, create room for a new pattern.

Easier, however, is to practice new patterns I want in place should I find need for them during a shake up I didn’t consciously plan.

You might be interested in no-charge teleclass this week, What’s Holding You Back? Bring a willingness for a new awareness around an issue you’d like to overcome and we’ll get busy changing any pattern that is keeping that issue stuck in place.

Please share your own stories of patterns you’ve overcome and how you overcame them below.

Should I Stay Or Should I Go Now?

I often hear this question, “Should I stay or should I go?” Another one I hear is “Why can’t I just get going? I want to go but something is pulling me back.”

Decisions and Follow Through

Life is always offering us opportunities to make decisions and to follow through.

Sometimes we find it difficult to make a decision. And sometimes we find it difficult to follow through once we’ve made a decision.

How to Make Up My Mind

I’m heard teachers emphatically state that you must make decisions quickly to be a success. And I’ve hear just as many insist that you must slow down and give adequate consideration before jumping into any action, look before you leap.

Which is it? Well, as a coach, I think it depends on the individual and the individual situation. I’ve also found that following through on any decision made can be severely hampered by what I like to call “dueling intentions”.

Dueling Intentions

You know, you’ve surely been there at some point. One part says “stay”, the other says “go”. On the one hand you want to get into action, but there’s a part that’s holding back, keeping your foot on the brake.

My idea is that until I become aware of the tug-of-war, identify the players, and resolve the needs of each, I’ll never come up with a solution that will allow me to move forward unhindered.

Resolve Dueling Intentions

Want to know more, or experience the shift from being stuck in stop-and-go to moving forward? Join me on Tuesday, October 18th, for an actual working teleconference call; Reconciling Dueling Intentions. Can’t make it? Sign up and I’ll send you the recording with a bonus good until Friday.

Post your comments below and I’ll address your situation in the call.

Support That Magically Alters Reality

After just one week in my first Mastermind group, one of the participants revealed he had both contracted to sell, and sold the house…in one day!

He said it so casually, as if it were no big deal. But this was exactly what he’d expressed he’d been wanting, and experiencing some difficulty achieving, just one week before.

What made the difference? What helped clear the way for ease and effortlessness?

Well I’d like to think that the support structure he’d built for himself by attending my Mastermind 4 Maximum Momentum had done the trick. And you can create this for yourself. It’s easy if you know the essential component that makes the magic work.

The Magic is Engaged When Someone Listens,
Truly Listens

The mere act of being listened to by someone who totally believes what you want can happen for you, opens all sorts of channels and pathways for your good to start zooming towards you.

That supporter, offers no resistance to your desire, no speed bumps, detours or hazards, so your reality can suddenly deliver what you want toot-sweet.

One friend, one person who is truly understanding, who takes the trouble to listen to us as we consider a problem, can change our whole outlook on the world.”
Dr. E. H. Mayo

The important detail here is to choose only those people to listen and support you who are capable of hearing, seeing and knowing what you want as possible. This rules out most of our current friends and family, as they have been seeing, hearing and knowing us as a certain person for some time. Seeing us with fresh eyes might threaten their own status quo.

Look Outside Your Current Circle

So look outside your current, obvious circle. Choose to gather for support with people who have a skill set for genuine listening and the capability to be confident for you.

Being a Support to Others Attracts Supporters to You

If you haven’t yet found the people you’d like to support you on a regular basis, you can get into the attraction of support by allowing support to flow through you to others.

Practice active listening, listen without judgement or opinion. Listen to hear the strength, capability and vision for another. Not only will it be an enormous gift to them, but it will keep you in the energy of support and your own support will be magnetically drawn to you.

Want the Goodies the Fast Way?

Want to try a Directed Mastermind? I’m creating small groups of 5-6 who meet on a teleconference bridge line or face to face through the miracle of teleconferencing, if you prefer; once a week, for one hour each meeting. I direct the meetings to keep the energy moving and the creative ideas flowing.

Contact me, Deborah@AnsweringTheSacred.com for more information or call 541-488-1678.